• cantstopthesignal@sh.itjust.works
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    10 days ago

    I know of jobs where people with kids get to choose assignments more regularly if there’s travel involved because they have kids and because the managers have kids. Like, you no kid person, hit the road next week. I mean I get it, but it is discriminatory.

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      10 days ago

      Raising a kid is work. If one of your co-workers had a random second job they had to keep and it paid nothing, how would your treat them?

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        “Raising a kid is work” Its also voluntary lol. You dont get to have sympathy for a decision.

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          My kids are more important than work or my coworkers. And so are my coworkers kids to them. Those who don’t have kids get to take off just the same for any issue at my work so maybe my life is too good for this meme

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          I mean somewhat a generalization. Still if you don’t want to empathize with the parent you still should empathize with the kid, you can’t just like leave the kid there unless you want to argue the kid should be taken away from this person which just feels cruel for both sides.

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            although that probs works with everyone having flexible hours which… I don’t think would even decrease profit too much? This seems more like a problem with the bosses anyways.

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          “Raising a kid is work” Its also voluntary lol.

          That’s like saying payments on your car financing are voluntary.

          Once you have made the decision the consequences are no longer voluntary.

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        They chose to get that job. I did not choose to get discriminated against for not choosing that job.

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          Then get used to it, that is how life works. People reproduce. Raising new human is hard. It is a well respected work and most adult ppl understand it and try to show empathy. Stop bitching about it in the internet go confront your boss

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          Well you can bitch and moan all you want about breeders but the fact remains that their offspring will finance society as you age.

          I am a parent myself and I see reproduction as the most egotistical thing you can do. At the same time those who do not are more or less leeches from a societal perspective.

          I the end we are all free to chose paths but stop complaining about the choices others have made. Yours do not make you superior.

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            Leeches? You’re kidding right? I pay into the taxes which fund your child’s schools, WIC, libraries, Medicare and all of the other things which children benefit from, that I do not, because I do NOT have children. I’m the opposite of a leech, I contribute more and use less than most parents. You need people like me contributing monetarily, socially, and culturally and not using all of the services to make it all work. I’m not going to shit on people who have kids, because as you said we all make choices, but don’t for a second think you’re somehow superior because you made a different choice than me.

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              Yes and when you get old and stop working those kids will pay for you. You do realise that a declining population is problem for this reason, right?

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                You’re assuming I’m not making provisions for myself and will be reliant on the system of taxes for my wellbeing. A declining population is only a problem when the entire system is in shambles. There is more than enough money and resources for every person on this earth to live comfortably; we’re just busy throwing away food and spending wealth and resources bombing each other and preventing “unworthy” people from accessing basic necessities.

                Don’t come at me as if I’m some child hating monster who thinks all parents are bad. I replied because you called me a leech for having the audacity to choose differently than you. I respect parents for the tough job they’ve taken on, especially in this day and age, but that doesn’t somehow make you superior. It takes a village, and not everyone in the village needs to reproduce to make it successful. Get off your high horse.

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                  I may have come of as a hater of the childfree life but I am definitely not. I just can’t stand those who complain about others having children. I am if the opinion that you have to choose to have children or not. Neither will make you superior.

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              Money isn’t everything. Or rather: if there are no people left to work for your money you have nothing to contribute (but your own work). You need other people kids more than they need your (relatively small) monetary contribution.

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                Where on earth are you going with this. You’re replying as if I somehow think nobody should have kids. Nowhere did I say or even imply that, no did I denigrate those that choose to. I simply refuted that those who choose not to are leeches simply by their lack of offspring. That’s a dumb statement. No society on earth has everyone reproducing; that has never and will never be a thing. There are other ways to contribute to the collective good, and society as a whole that have nothing to do with having children. Yes, people need to reproduce for our species to succeed, and I respect those who choose to do so. That doesn’t make them superior though, and calling me a leech for choosing not to is asinine.

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            stop complaining about the choices others have made. Yours do not make you superior.

            those who do not [breed] are more or less leeches from a societal perspective.

            Wow. I guess I missed the part where people without kids don’t have to pay taxes and just get free retirement…

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              Your taxes finance the retirement of the people currently retired. Your retirement is financed by kids who will work when you’re retired

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              Well when you get old and stop working those kids will pay back by paying taxes themselves. That is the part you missed.

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                So when I invest in the future by planting fruit trees I become A leech when I collect fruit off those trees?

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                  The money needed to pay for all elderly people in society is not purely from the taxes we pay whilst we work. We who pay taxes now, are also paying for retired people. If the ratio between retired and non retired is too skewed the quality of life will reduce for the elderly and the retirement age will also have to go up to cover these costs.

                  I simply meant that if enough people do not provide to the pool of working adults this retirement ratio will be affected. Most economic systems in the west are based on the assumption that people will have kids. Without them there will a deficit since the pool of older people will cost a lot more than what society can handle.

                  I regret using the word “leech” and I agree that it was too harsh. But if enough people stop producing offspring we end up with a behaviour that is not far from parasitic in that they will at some point expect others to pay for them, others who not exist.

                  Given the state of the world I totally get why people do not want to have any kids. But I do not understand why people hate on parents so much when they are actually providing something of societal value. So when someone wants you to imagine what it is like to have a second job, this second job is, in fact, indirectly supporting future you as well.

                  Obviously some people cannot have children and that is fine. It becomes a problem when there is a wave of people who will not. Again, understandable but problematic. I kind of get r/fatpeoplehate vibes from these discussions and it made me react.

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                    I kind of get r/fatpeoplehate vibes from these discussions and it made me react.

                    Complaining that a group is being given privileges that other people are not, such as more flexible hours and the ability to turn down traveling for work, and expressing a desire to receive the same privileges, is not the same as hating that group.

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                It’s infuriating that you don’t see how incredibly fucking stupid that is. It isn’t a universal truth either; it hasn’t always been this way and it isn’t even this way all over the world today. Hell, it doesn’t even actually work currently in the US, how many retired people do you know that actually only live on Social Security? Basically fucking none because it is nowhere near enough money to retire, despite paying in an absolute fortune over their entire working lives. That same money saved in almost any other imaginable way would do more to support retirees than the awful fucking system we have now that relies on the next few generations to pay.

                That’s because what you are espousing the benefits of like it is the obvious and only system is just a forced fucking ponzi scheme.

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        You conflate work and responsibilities. everyone has the latter, and the schedule juggling that comes with it.

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        I would treat them like a fucking idiot, because that is a terrible decision to have made… Your analogy really sucks here. I don’t think coworkers with kids are complete fucking idiots, but the hypothetical person in your comment is a complete fucking idiot.