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  • Narcissists will never voluntarily do therapy. The brain is a simple organ. It only learns new things by being surprised, when something unexpected happens. This has to be repeated over and over again to have an effect.

    I’d recommend you take a look at schema therapy and mention it because I recognise the emotional state that comes across in what you post. Schema therapy would talk about this as “angry child mode”. Which is not intended to invalidate the very real reasons you have to be angry. It becomes a prison, isolation yourself from different parts that exist within you that could otherwise work in your favour to help you achieve what you want or better advocate for your needs.

    Without the support of someone who knows what they’re doing that angry child mode is a never-ending pit of despair and source of guilt.








  • Maybe a negativity schema from a parent who was very tightly wound and anxious. Kids learn this stuff before the age of five. I know that if I have ten positive interactions and one negative then the negative one is going to dictate the narrative I tell myself about the world. If you know what to look for it makes it possible to catch yourself falling into patterns of thought, identify why and learn to see things a bit differently. It doesn’t invalidate anything you’ve been through.


  • TeraByteMarx@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoMental Health@lemmy.worldHyper independence
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    3 months ago

    Someone who’s hyper independent would prefer solitude and would likely have problems with relationships for a number of reasons including being really out of practice. And not having any reference point for understanding what a secure attachment looks and feels like.

    You can have a significant preference for being alone, require a great deal of quiet time and still suffer from social isolation.

    It’s all interconnected, we’re not designed to live a life alone.

    Having said that I still wish people would stop approaching me when I leave the house :/


  • TeraByteMarx@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoPolitical Memes@lemmy.worldMission accomplished
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    3 months ago

    Pointing out to who? For what purpose? Why do they unanimously prefer the picture on the left to begin with? Do you think the person on the right needs to be told they’re sexually desirable? Where do you think this picture came from originally? Can we talk about the larger themes without talking about personal preferences? Because they’re telling on themselves and it’s going over your head.



  • It certainly is when the discussion should be about the fucking pedos leading these shit stains. Context m8.

    They like little innocent malleable girls, so when you see the juxtaposition and decide to offer your dicks 2 cents, yeah it’s a gross red flag that no one needs to hear. Don’t understand why you’d feel the need to mention it in the first place? If you work it out let me know.