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  • Are you familiar with the concept of limerence? It’s an intense infatuation with a person typically rooted in romantic interest. It occurs when you don’t really know a person, and you build an idealized version of them in your mind that likely doesn’t reflect reality. You attribute all sorts of positive traits to them and overlook all their negative traits. You effectively view them through “rose colored glasses”. This is how Trump’s followers look at him. They have this delusional view of him as this strong man here to save them from the mean old leftists. His efforts to seize and wield extraordinary power is viewed favorably, because he is their savior. Everything he does is either awesome or it’s just minimized and ignored. When he does horrible things, it’s just haters looking to knock him down, because he’s just giving the U.S. the tough medicine it needs. There is no way to reason with them, because you can’t reason someone out of something they didn’t reason themselves into in the first place. It’s an emotional thing, in the same way you might be smitten by an attractive woman and build her up in your mind into something that she isn’t. The only way to break the spell is when your fantasy runs into cold, hard reality. In this case, the cold, hard reality will be financial collapse of the U.S. (or worse).









  • I’ll disagree here. I’m one of those mythical independent voters. I have no party affiliation, and subscribe to Jefferson’s philosophy:

    I never submitted the whole system of my opinions to the creed of any party of men whatever in religion, in philosophy, in politics, or in any thing else where I was capable of thinking for myself. Such an addiction is the last degradation of a free and moral agent.

    However, most conservatives see me as a lefty, because most of my views, especially on social issues, are consistent with left-wing policies.




  • You may or may not find this useful, but I thought I’d share on the chance it might help. The people around you can have a tremendous impact on your mental health. I unfortunately had a malignant narcissist in my life that organized a mobbing campaign calculated to drive me to suicide. How was it done? Massive amounts of gaslighting to unmoor me from reality, heap stressors on me to overload, while those around me seeded the idea by constantly talking about suicide “if you want someone else to completely believe in your idea, you must make them believe that it was their own idea all along.” The strategy was fairly effective, and by the time I realized what was going on I was a wreck and had frequent suicidal ideation.

    What stopped me was, like you, something inside telling me not to do it. This experience has completely reshaped how I view suicide, and I suspect that many others have been driven to suicide though similar means. What I did to get out of it was to sever ties with everyone involved, which basically meant severing ties virtually everyone in my life, including my family (they were involved), and rebuilding myself from the ground up. I started with physical improvement through exercise, as I was morbidly obese and had several related health issues. By focusing on small, incremental things that I did have control over, such as sleep, exercise, and nutrition, I was able to make useful changes to improve my life. You can’t change what other people do, but you can change what you do, and that can have an enormous impact on your life. While doing this, I was effectively in purgatory for 4 years while I rebuilt myself, and only last August did I begin to venture out to work on rebuilding my social life. It’s been a long haul, but I am so much happier now. I now have numerous real friends, an active social life, am in the best shape of my life, and am virtually unrecognizable to people who knew me before. The world is still in a shit place, and it will almost certainly get worse before it gets better, but focusing on things I can control and letting go of things out of my control I am in a much better place to deal with it all. Best of luck, and hang in there.