• Tar_Alcaran@sh.itjust.works
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    10 days ago

    Wait, people make excuses at the door? I just rudely say no and immediately close the door.

    if they have a problem with my rudeness, well, maybe they shouldn’t be ringing my doorbell.

  • chloeboehnchen (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    10 days ago

    Haven’t had too many experiences with men (yet), but 100% of the times I’ve been hit on by a man in public they were overstepping boundaries and not once was my initial no respected.

  • Wren@lemmy.today
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    10 days ago

    Considering I’ve been threatened with rape and murder SEVERAL TIMES from people who knew my number, my vibe check has a high bar. If they don’t pass it, they get the number for a psychic reading.

  • Astronut@lemmy.zipBanned from community
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    10 days ago

    I had a Direct tv installer at my house hooking up a new system years ago and a week later he killed a whole family next town over so…

  • i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    10 days ago

    Accidentally posted before I was ready and deleted it. Oops.

    Yes, I agree.

    Men can be in danger. Women can be the perpetrators. That is often not the case.

    In the case of dating, on average, it is more dangerous to be a woman. Just saying no to a man can end poorly. You cannot always tell who will become violent.

    If the man hurts or kills you, you are likely not going to get justice.

    Giving out a fake phone number prevents a lot of this.

    If your feelings are hurt by getting a fake phone number, I genuinely am sorry. But a life is more important than feelings.

    It’s really hard to find an equivalent scenario that men can envision. The salesperson one is ok.

    I did notice that men on this thread have also (correctly) pointed out it can be dangerous for men encountering door to door salespeople too. It may be illuminating for them to imagine this salesperson and think about what gender the salesperson is likely to be.

  • fizzle@quokk.auBanned from community
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    10 days ago

    This is just rage bait.

    Of course women can do whatever they want to do to feel safe.

    I don’t think the salesman / fake number thing is a reasonable analogy though.

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      10 days ago

      If this is ragebait you must be throwing tanrums daily. Have you seen the rules for this community? Try not to take them too personally.

      • fizzle@quokk.auBanned from community
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        10 days ago

        you must be throwing tanrums daily

        Actually no, that’s not really true at all.

  • i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    10 days ago

    Yes, totally agree.

    The door to door salesperson examples are dangerous for men, too. But I notice the men replying that they are comfortable with telling these salespeople to leave.

    I’m not saying that it isn’t dangerous for men out there. I’m not saying that women cannot also be a danger.

    But on average, when it comes to