y0kai [he/him]

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  • I’m not sure anyone else in my life would have responded differently so I can’t just replace everyone who would have responded in the same way.

    This makes sense and I would still give them a chance myself. Just understand that if they’re not willing to accept you that there are people out there who will.

    Also I don’t know if this will help or not, but I feel like you have a sort of reverse situation to an experience of mine:

    I found out in my late 20’s that I had ADHD which had a profound impact on the way that I saw myself and how I thought about my own actions and life leading up to that point. It was a huge paradigm shift to see myself from this new angle and I told family and friends and they had the opposite reaction to your friends in that they shrugged it off like it was no big deal, though to me, it was a huge deal. Then, a lifelong friend told me something that made me understand where they were coming from. He said (and I’m paraphrasing), “you had ADHD when we were 12, and when we were 18, and now you still have it in our late 20s. You haven’t changed at all. Nothing is new, you’re just aware of it now. I knew you then for who you were and I know you now for who you still are. I get that it’s big news to you, but to me, it’s just another day of the same guy, except today he has a new word to describe himself.”

    Maybe your friends need to realize that you didn’t just get schizophrenia and that you’ve had for however long you’ve had it / known them (if that’s the case, of course). That you were the same guy the years and weeks and days before you told them as you were the day after you told them, and the only thing that has changed is their awareness of a label that you had the whole time.







  • Case law in the US has at least one example of someone being convicted of felony murder simply for letting another person borrow their car with no other significant connection to the case.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ryan_Holle

    In the early morning hours of March 10, 2003, after a night of partying, Holle lent his car to his friend and housemate William Allen Jr.[1] Allen drove three men to the home of Christine Snyder, where they took a safe containing approximately 1 pound (454 g) of marijuana and $425.[3] During the burglary, one of the men, Charles Miller Jr., used a shotgun found in the house to strike and kill Jessica Snyder.[1][3] Holle was about 1.5 miles (2.4 km) away at the time.[1]

    John Oliver has a great segment on how fucked up this law is: https://youtu.be/Y93ljB7sfco

    That said, you’re right in that it is highly unlikely any of the higher-ups will be held responsible.