So the solution is to start from a place of distrust? If you treat children like they’ve already done something wrong, what reason do they have left to behave? It also seems pretty damaging to their development to teach them that being treated this way be default is good or right.
If it’s a problem, sure, take them away. But not even giving them the chance to show some level of responsibility early, even if it’s likely they might not do it, is both lazy, and developmentally damaging.






Not sure where this superstition came from. You can clean your cast iron with soap, pretty much any kind. Seasoning is very tough, around the hardness of glass. Pretty much the only real guidelines are don’t use anything abrasive like bar keepers friend (unless you wanna reseason), and don’t leave it wet.
The people leaving a layer of uncleaned grease on their pans have no clue what they are doing.