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Cake day: July 21st, 2026

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  • I do wonder if this is just your natural cycle. It makes sense that you’re active in the Summer when life is abundant and easier while in Winter life dies/hides and you too find it harder.

    In our modern world it’s easy to feel like you have to be productive all the time. The system tells us to reach for medication to ‘fix’ things and feel ‘normal’. Don’t get me wrong, medication can be wonderful and it’s fair to want more from your life. But idk, we’re animals and so we are affected by the changing seasons.

    Vitamin D and a Winter holiday to somewhere sunny are good suggestions. I live somewhere with intense Summer/Winter seasons too and life is just harder in the cold and dark. More rest and being kinder to yourself i hope would help. What would it take to not feel like you’re struggling when your energy is low?





  • Indeed. Running an instance is a lot of effort. I can’t say if it would be worth it. I really hope you don’t abandon fedi. We need people like you. Those who are willing to put in the work to try and make things better.

    You clearly have talent. I’m sure you can help the fediverse grow. Maybe your effort would be better focused elsewhere. I know the sports communities are looking for automation help. A recreation of the match threadder bot could be very useful. If that’s at all of interest to you of course!



  • Having read the thread i do understand where you’re coming from. I’m sure some people like you’re posts but people are allowed to dislike them too.

    It’s a tricky one. I have seen moderators and admins be heavy handed which can indeed damage the fediverse. But giving a repost account free reign to flood communtites isn’t ideal either.

    If you are getting annoyed by admins and moderators i think it’s logical to run your own instance. You’ll never be able to stop people blocking/defederating but at least you’ll have more control.

    I want to thank you for the effort you’re putting in. I believe you’re doing it for the right reasons but some people are not happy with the results. Perhaps you could reach out to the admins/mods who blocked you and come to an agreement about number of posts per week? Perhaps a dedicated reddit mirror instance would help more people to switch over?



  • Yeah that’s the killer. Just not enough content yet. I think it’s cause video hosting is expensive. My hope is that individual youtubers start hosting their own peertube instances. But they’d never do that because they’d lose money.

    If peertube could get functionality which would allow creators to hide videos behind a subcription which could be paid in fiat/crypto that would be a game changer. Easy to donate to your favourite creators while keeping federation.

    Maybe one day.

    Defo would recommend changing your email though. Takes a while to do all your accounts but once it’s done you’re free! Feels good.





  • I was always pretty sure I was gonna go on HRT after coming out (they/them) but definitely had similar doubts. In the end i started because i wanted to. I wanted to look more fem. I spent a year being more fem which was the best time ever but still tough. Now i’m 2 years on E and i love it! I started slow and orally but planning on changing to gel at my next appointment. I’m lucky and would do diy if it wasn’t accessible.

    Only you can know if it’s right for you. When i read the effects HRT would have they sounded great lol if you want the changes HRT brings there’s a good chance you’re gonna feel better. It’s a big decision though and it does affect how you’re seen in the world. Depending on where you live that can be scary.

    If you feel you’re headed in the wrong direction you can always change course. It’s your life. Trust yourself.






  • Indeed. If you had you own space you it would be a game changer. Your family situation sounds tough but if moving out is an option i think it could really help.

    That co-worker should do better. No excuse starting an altercation over words. Maybe you’d feel comfortable in neurodivergent communities where people are more understanding and patient. Unfortunately we do need other people but i totally get the feeling of wanting to withdraw.

    No worries! It reminds me of a situation i was in a few years ago. I’m doing a lot better now. I really hope you’ll be able to say the same. It sounds like you have some ideas of what you want which is a good place to start. I wish you all the best.


  • Aw yeah work “friends” are atrocious. In that case perhaps you can focus on finding something that brings you joy. Can be anything in the world. Then find some type of community who share the same joy. It will be much easier to find, see, and hold on to friends.

    Please do look after your health if you can. I would hate for circumstances to change but be unable to take advantage due to preventable issues.



  • Damn, that really does sound like a tough situation. You deserve better.

    You sound like a caring person who is working extremely hard to provide for their family. Working a demanding job like that and coming home to a hostile environment is so hard. There’s no respite. There’s no peace.

    Online interaction is weird. It’s much harder to understand intent through text than through speech. Do you have irl friends? Could you meet people irl through hobbies/shared interests?

    We all die in the end. Living in suffering waiting for it to happen is not a pleasant way to be. Fuck what other people think. If you worked this hard for yourself i think you could achieve a lot. Obviously your situation sounds tough to break free from but you can do it. Focus on any small thing that brings true happiness and go from there.