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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • Aromantic and asexual are distinct, but often confused.

    Aromantic/aro: an individual who feels little or no romantic attraction to others. These folks may still have relationships or hookups, but generally don’t find those evolving into long-term romantic love or monogamy.

    Asexual/ace: an individual who feels little or no sexual attraction to others. These folks may still have relationships or hookups but generally don’t feel a specific drive to engage in sex or other physical intimacy with people.

    Anyone on either of these spectrums can still have relationships of any type, and anyone on either of these spectrums can still be an asshole in those relationships. Aro people generally don’t form individual romantic bonds, but unless they’re also ace/asexual they are still as sexual as anyone else. As a result, it might appear that they are a bit of a player (sex without long term attachment).

    If she is indeed aro but not ace and is in a monogamous relationship, she’s likely not in the best situation for someone with those leanings. It sounds to me like she wants out of the relationship but isn’t willing to be honest about it and is trying to get OP to end it.



  • I think this is a great thing to talk more openly about!

    I have an at-home laser hair removal device (https://us.braun.com/en-us/female-hair-removal/ipls/silk-expert-pro-5-pl5157) that I use on my legs, armpits, bikini line, and boobs. I also use a razor to touch up legs, armpits, and bikini area when I need to. The hair in these areas is a lot slower to grow & more fine than it used to be before I started using the laser device, but it does still come back.

    I can’t imagine being the type of person who takes pubic hair removal seriously though. I’ve just got too much and it grows too fast and my skin is way too sensitive to handle it. As someone that isn’t in a relationship and not super into hookups, my perspective is: if you’re going down there you’re welcome and you’re one of the lucky few. I’m not about to cause myself constant discomfort just so my occasional sexual partners have a view of my genitals that they may or may not find more aesthetically pleasing. The idea of putting in all that time, effort, money, and discomfort just so that my vag can look like a child’s is a fucking no for me.

    No judgement towards those that do it! Just could never be me.





  • It varies based on local legislation, so in some places paying ransoms is banned but it’s by no means universal. It’s totally valid to be against paying ransoms wherever possible, but it’s not entirely black and white in some situations.

    For example, what if a hospital gets ransomed? Say they serve an area not served by other facilities, and if they can’t get back online quickly people will die? Sounds dramatic, but critical public services get ransomed all the time and there are undeniable real world consequences. Recovery from ransomware can cost significantly more than a ransom payment if you’re not prepared. It can also take months to years to recover, especially if you’re simultaneously fighting to evict a persistent (annoyed, unpaid) threat actor from your environment.

    For the record I don’t think ransoms should be paid in most scenarios, but I do think there is some nuance to consider here.