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  • You know a bunch of unhappy people? Or a bunch of people who heard a bunch of “I hate my spouse” jokes and decided it was funny and not a cautionary tale.

    I am a married man and love every second of it. If there is anyone who should be talking about how there is no benefit to marriage is married women. Statistically married straight women have more household tasks and are unhappier compared to their single cohort. While for married men its the opposite with them having fewer household tasks and happier than single men. So if anyone should be complaining and saying that marriage isn’t worth it are straight women





  • I am in the same camp as you and I think most people will be as well. We all have heard about the person who retired with no hobbies and no purpose who just drinks beer and watches TV all day. This i think is more rare than this article suggests. I also think the younger you are the easier the switch would be because you would have less time for a job to break your spirit.

    I have found that purposely working less and caring less has allowed other interests to grow.








  • I do think there is an innate chemistry and attraction between certain people. This chemistry and ebb and flow over time and in general it can be cultivated to a certain extent but it mostly hardwired. I do think if you want a relationship that sexually exclusive and satisifying you will need to priortize it at the beginning because sexual attraction does tend to decrease over decades long relationships. That being said it sometimes takes a few months and times together (intimately) to understand a spark

    That being said, there are a lot of people who mistake drama for sexual attraction / chemisty. This is a common mistake especially if you are coming a relationships from your young adult / teenage years. So make sure what you are missing is attraction / chemistry not drama. Also note that most people intencity of emotions decreases after the young adult / teenage years so the attraction / chemistry may feel different.

    Long and short. If you truly belive you don’t / can’t be attracted to this person and want a sexuality exclusive relationships it isn’t crazy to break up with them. But ensure that what you are looking for isn’t just drama in your life and set relatistic expectation of what attraction looks like.