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Cake day: March 13th, 2026

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    1. Your ability to get sexualized/ male attention does not make you more or less of a woman, more or less beautiful, or more or less worthy. Simply put, take them out of the equation of your self-worth. Small or big, you’ve got what you’ve got. And a lot of us struggle with feelings about this.

    2. Your ability to engage in domestic chores does not make your more or less of a woman. I can understand from the perspective of wanting to help out with chores but household tasks are not “women jobs” by default although a lot of people are raised to think this way. I honestly don’t trust anyone with my happiness if they pretend like they can’t do domestic work.

    3. This one is so hard. Mother/daughter relationships have the same issues a lot of our relationships have except many of us always want our mothers no matter how they may make us feel or whether what they want for us is objectively good. Don’t feel like this being hard is a reflection of you, a lot of people genuinely struggle with this one.

    4. Make-up is another one of those things that doesn’t make you a woman. A lot of what your see online is super high maintenance stuff. Most people were minimal makeup. Many of us don’t wear it every day. If you’re chasing beauty standards of people you see online you will probably always be knocking yourself. Between filters and heavy makeup and most of this stuff is fake.

    I tried to go point by point of your thoughts here. But my main takeaway is I hope you can come to a point where you realize external things don’t make you a woman. You are a woman. Lack of third party validation doesn’t change that. Being sexualized doesn’t change that. Being a good homemaker doesn’t change that. Personally I would fail 3/4 of your points here.