Oh there are plenty of instances of kindness I’ve regretted. Far more than cruelty since I avoid cruelty. Still, I’d rather regret a failed act of kindness than succeed in an act if cruelty.
Yeah I allowed my own kindness to lead me into a manipulator’s grasp. But then I think about what a friend told me after, how she’d rather be taken advantage of sometimes than callous to the needs of others. What I really needed was to maintain boundaries, and to acknowledge when someone is beyond my help, not to not be kind
Oh there are plenty of instances of kindness I’ve regretted. Far more than cruelty since I avoid cruelty. Still, I’d rather regret a failed act of kindness than succeed in an act if cruelty.
Yeah I allowed my own kindness to lead me into a manipulator’s grasp. But then I think about what a friend told me after, how she’d rather be taken advantage of sometimes than callous to the needs of others. What I really needed was to maintain boundaries, and to acknowledge when someone is beyond my help, not to not be kind
First person you have to be kind to is yourself
Being kind and being a doormat are not the same thing.