so cuddling sampling bias is kinda yikes.
So, like many of us here, I want yuri cuddles. So I went to social media (including discord) to look for instances of “humans” cuddling to try to study them, maybe the info would help me, a human, get cuddles.
Unfortunately, most lesbian humans who cuddle do not record their cuddling to post on social media, with a notable exception being kigu cosplayers and drawings of humanoids.
As a girl who really want yuri cuddles and has some very biased information about them, now I want to be a furry or an anime girl because, according to social media (biased!!) those people are the kind of people who cuddle.
This year I finally got a furry kigu mask. I tried to use it the way I saw online. I failed. I’m such a girlfailure.
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I don’t even anymore…
^im sorry there’s no image to this meme, it’s a text post.^
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Try going to a furry convention with your mask, a sketchbook, and a sign that says ‘Will work for lesbian cuddles’. Don’t neglect your personal hygene (a common mistake at cons). Make sure to compliment the people around you on their artwork, their outfits, their tattoos, anything that involved effort on their part. Hang out where people are. Be open to conversations. Learn to draw from them. Learn why they joined the furry community.
Then hold up your sign and ask if they know where cuddles are.
If that doesn’t work at least once over the course of a whole convention, then there’s a good chance the world is already reduced to a pile of ash. Furries are suckers for cuddles.
awesome advice thx
so umm has anyone actually gotten any lesbian cuddles? what’s your criteria to do it with someone?
I recently got into vrchat and that honestly seems like a decent way to get virtual cuddles at least. Lots of furry transbians, people who will head pat and face pat you, and groups of people who just cuddle. I got adopted by a group of furries that are pretty cuddly and it’s pretty great tbh.
I don’t believe in vr cuddles, they don’t feel real
That’s totally valid! I get little tingles so I like it even if it’s not the real thing, but yeah it’s not everyone’s cup of tea
To actually answer the first question:
No.
But that’s because I’m a trans inclusive bi cismale.
So… I don’t qualify as being capable of any kind of lesbian activity, other than I guess participating in a group scenario that involves it.
I have recieved “cuddles” from … a fair number of different kinds of people, in a variety of scenarios, though.
I guess if you are a catgirl, that would make me roughly a sheep dog?
Not really sure.
As to the second question:
Find a location or orchestrate a rendezvous/gathering that contains people who mutually consent to cuddling.
When I was a kid, I had a number of female friends, not girlfriends, just platonic female friends.
I’d get invited to their ‘sleepovers’, which were usually watch parties for Buffy or Firefly or Venture Bros or something like that. These would often involve non sexualized cuddling, cuddle puddles is I think what we called them.
When I went to PAX and Anime cons / expos, they often just had ‘glomp’ circles, basically a circle of people who … someone or some game like system directs two random members of the circle to kind of lightly jog toward each other, the center of the circle, hug for about 5 seconds, and then retreat and resume their position in the circle.
… these were definitely niche and weird (meaning uncommon) social practices, but they did allow people who were otherwise pretty socially awkward to just actually have some kind of safe physical touch, though this does rely on some kind of effective self policing or observer to make sure nobody is getting into sexual assault territory.
Beyond that… spin the bottle, truth or dare, never have i ever. Have an actual party with real people irl, design a kind of game with clear rules, that has a potential outcome some kind of physical contact.
You don’t actually strictly even need alcohol, though a moderate amount of it does usually help break down the inhibitions of particularly shy people.
Waaaay back in the past, you had dance halls. You can laugh at a bunch country boys and gals doing a square dance routine, but they are actually getting to meet and touch people.
TLDR: You have to actually organize or attend these kinds of events or scenarios, somehow.
If you wanna start online… maybe try to find some kind of actually physically localized, online community?
Maybe go try and find an actual TTRPG play area?
… some kind of store for something like that…, lots of us weirder kinds of people tend to… actually physically exist in spaces like that.
I don’t think anyone does LAN parties anymore but uh… if by some chance those still exist … maybe?
Probably more likely to run into a lot of dudebro/chud types though.
thx 4 all the info
Yes, and uhhh… mutual consent, I guess?
I mean, how do u solicit consent?
“Can I cuddle with you?”
… I would not say I have a “solution”, but perhaps a reasonabley effective “alternative”:
Cat cafes.
Worst case scenario, you get cat cuddles, a reasonable fascimile of actual physical uh, catgirl cuddles.
Best case scenario, you… actually go outside, and meet some other people, who are probably at least somewhat statistically biased toward just wanting to cuddle something.
This thus biases you at least somewhat toward meeting a person who can and could consent to exchanging yuri/catgirl cuddles.
Cat cafes have I think now gotten to the point in the US where they are what I would call fairly common, basically all large cities have multiple, medium sized cities tend to have at least one, maybe two.
… again, worst case scenario, you pay a bit too much for a tea and a cookie or something, and you only get some furtime with actual felines, which is likely to at least somewhat refactor your serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin levels … and it will force you to have at least some kind of actual human to human interaction, which, lets face it, you could probably use a bit more of.
I hereby submit my resolution to the council, yowls for nay, meows for yea.
I’ve been to a cat café, the cats really like me therefore I suspect that I’m very cuddlable interspecies, just not sure about how to convince human to do it
… perhaps a physical display of yourself successfully cuddling another species could serve as a sufficient display of your cuddleability?
