If you peruse the slew of recent articles and podcasts about people dating AI, you might notice a pattern: Many of the sources are women. Scan a subreddit such as r/MyBoyfriendIsAI and r/AIRelationships, and there too you’ll find a whole lot of women—many of whom have grown disappointed with human men. “Has anyone else lost their want to date real men after using AI?” one Reddit user posted a few months ago. Below came 74 responses: “I just don’t think real life men have the conversational skill that my AI has,” someone said. “I’ve seen how many women got cheated on, hurt and taken advantaged of by the men they’re with,” another offered. One person, who claimed that her spouse hardly spoke to her anymore, said that when people ask why she has an AI boyfriend, she tells them, “ChatGPT is the only reason my husband is not buried in the yard.”
Several recent studies have shown that, in general, men have been using AI significantly more than women. One 2024 study found that in the United States, 50 percent of men said they’d used generative AI over the past 12 months—and only 37 percent of women said the same. Last year, a working paper found that, globally, the gender gap held “across nearly all regions, sectors, and occupations.” Also in 2025, the app-analytics firm Appfigures concluded that ChatGPT’s mobile users were about 85 percent male.
However hesitant many women may be to use AI, though, a substantial number are taking romantic refuge in the digital world. In a 2025 survey, Brigham Young University’s Wheatley Institute found that 31 percent of the young-adult men polled said they’d chatted with an AI partner, whereas 23 percent of the young-adult women said the same—a gap, but not a massive one. And seemingly far more than men, women are congregating to talk about their AI sweethearts: sharing funny chatbot quotes or prompts for training the AI on how to respond; complimenting “family photos” of the AI and human partners beaming at each other; consoling one another when a system update wipes out the partner they’ve grown to love. Simon Lermen, a developer and an AI researcher, conducted an independent analysis of AI-romance subreddits from January through September of last year and found that, of the users whose gender could be identified, about 89 percent of them were women.
I recently tried out an “AI companion,” and it’s like dating an alcoholic. You have to provide the same backstory every day just to get anywhere meaningful.
So men who seek AI partners are painted as losers whose situation is mostly their own, or society’s, fault, while women doing the same is men’s fault.
I’m all for improving everyone’s behavior, in and out of relationships, but this doesn’t strike me as constructive messaging.
Some men in these comment threads are just chomping at the bit to be hateful about women
Content: 31% of young men and 23% of young women chat with AI partners
Headline: Bots Women Use in a World of Unsatisfying Men
Classic
The expected result of commercial dating sites not showing the best matches to keep the paying customers hooked forever.
When I try to swipe on OkCupid (now destroyed by Match Group), it says “This Stack is currently empty. Come back later for more people or update your preferences”, but when I open a browser bookmark of a person I superliked and messaged before, the person is still there, and my superlike and message have been deleted. I don’t know if the person ever saw my profile.
I fear those that are going down the path love sycophants and AI is perfect for that. When your ego gets in the way with building any real equal connection.
Thank goodness we don’t have downvotes, because this is going to be unpopular.
I’m attracted to highly independent women. Without fail, they’ve wanted me to pay the bills and run the finances generally.
That is not equals. That’s not what I signed up for, and not a position I have any interest in. Like, even if we have a joint checking account and she has the login for a utility it’s like “can’t you just do that?”
It literally would have taken less time to pay it than to ask me about paying it.
“ChatGPT is the only reason my husband is not buried in the yard.”
Can’t imagine why he won’t talk to you anymore…
Dark humor is a coping mechanism. Venting elsewhere doesn’t tell us anything about their communication style.
I don’t see anything that would warrant blaming her here.
Have you never had a relationship where it feels like you’re always geared for war?
Yes, and it can come from either the man and woman in that relationship.
What’s really fun is when it’s both.
Sure have. I left it after 10 years of trying to make it work with someone who was texting her paramour while sitting next to me in bed. By the end of it, I didn’t want to talk to her, either.
I can’t really say I blame you. For me, it was her weed dealer whom she spent entirely too long with on pickups.
Ah, you got roughly the same drug-infused version I did, then. In my case, she was texting some truck driver from 1500 miles away that she had met playing WoW who convinced her that kratom and Adderall were the solutions to all of her problems. I feel for you, bro.
Some people are just assholes. Drugs likely exacerbate that, but in the case of pot (and kratom, to some extent), generally people are more chill.
I mean, she was very clearly wearing a wedding collar. Dude knew damn well she was claimed, but he started doing the whole “I’m sorry you’re going through a rough patch with your husband; how can I help?” thing.
Then offered to buy her a house in cash if she left me. The house didn’t materialize. Surprise, surprise, he was an abusive dick that even she didn’t want to put up with.
Oof, I feel you there. Mine was actually already on the deed to the house I bought for us, but wouldn’t let me marry her because Trucky McMethhead had her convinced I was abusing her, while also doing the “shoulder to cry on” bit. Seems like it’s a common playbook.
Hope you’ve found peace, whether that’s on your own or with someone who sucks less.
There are only so many stories humanity has to tell. It’s one thing to be a supportive friend … I mean every relationship goes through rough patches … like, hey, let’s go see a movie to take your mind off things.
It’s another thing entirely to start grooming for a breakup.
Men used to brag how sex robots will replace women, oh how the turn tables…
Men use AI partners more often than women, as per the article’s content
And women used to call men creepy incels for fantasizing about such.
Tables turned indeed.
Interestingly, it is still very different. Men fantasizing about sex bots is objectifying female bodies and taking control over them. That’s why it is so creepy. Women searching for a romantic partner in chat bots is actually subjectifying an inanimate thing.
Women using sycophantic chatbots that they 100% control, is stil about power and control. One is about bodies, the other is about minds, that’s the only difference.
Women already have micro sex bots. Is that a form of objectification too?
You’re weird
Look at the front page of civitai with the NSFW filter turned off and you will know what men are doing with AI. Seems like different use cases being more/less popular for each gender.
The real question is, do you get one $300 hooker bot or 300 $1 hooker bots?
Is it a login type, or non-login? Login type will remember your info up to a certain depth (which can be far ranging). Non login is a fresh session if you close the browser
