It makes sense to choose 1st or 2nd person pronouns as person is interacting with you directly, but can you really choose 3rd person pronouns as you are not in the conversation, it is others are referring to you so they can choose what best describes you for them to understand who they talk about. (I’m not from US so it is all new to me)
In practice that’s what happens, but there’s no problem switching to the correct pronouns once you know that they are.
It’s not some new fangled right. It’s an old right. 50 years ago if I started talking about someone and got their gender wrong, I’d quickly switch to the correct pronouns when called out.
If you think about it, for a speaker to come up with some pronouns, then insisting they use those pronouns no matter what is both rude and dis-functional.
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I just avoid the issue by sticking to “them” or using the person’s first name.
It’s not something I have much experience with but it’s like calling somebody by a nickname.
You just ask them to stop but it’s a free country. If they don’t it’s typically a good indicator for their general ability to listen.
The best way to have someone understand who another person is talking about is to use the correct pronouns, whether or not the person in question is in the conversation.
The person will tell you the correct pronouns, and tell the one you are speaking with the correct pronouns. You should both use the correct pronouns between each other too, that just makes sense.