• carl_dungeon@lemmy.worldEnglish
    832·
    2 years ago

    All these incels forget they’re still just assholes from 4chan apart from all the other stuff.

    • S_H_K@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      393·
      2 years ago

      Yeah the guy could work in not viewing success in a vagina access based way. That would help hus personality for sure.

      • St.Elsewhere@threads.net@sh.itjust.works
        192·
        2 years ago

        When in that state, it’s immensely difficult to understand what exactly is going wrong, let alone fix it. I still remember being an awkward idiot kid confused about my isolation, flailing at shadows and endlessly making a nuisance of myself by reveling in the discomfort my presence bred. Misery one way glass. Hope anon finds someone to pass him notes.

        • whoknewr@lemmy.todayEnglish
          2·
          2 years ago

          ikr!, I’m still on this never-ending journey of self-improvement but I still cannot for the life of me not cringe out from my past self. I have a friend who is dealing with stuff I dealt with, probably worse, and I cannot convince him to change. He literally cannot fanthom that the way he is his problem, which he needs to address instead of blaming everything wrong with his life on others. How do we even help these people?

          • St.Elsewhere@threads.net@sh.itjust.works
            2·
            2 years ago

            It’s a bit like AA. Until they recognize the problem and desire to fix it, it’s fruitless for anyone outside to attempt to fix it. Therapy and gentle course corrections are about it.

  • cally [he/they]@pawb.socialEnglish
    65·
    2 years ago

    even though inferior men seem to have no problem doing so

    there’s his problem. thinking of others as inferior (and of yourself as “superior”) is egocentric.

    • midnight_puker@sh.itjust.works
      261·
      2 years ago

      It’s a delicate balance. Swing too far in the other direction and you end up like me, believing you are inferior to everyone.

      • tetris11@lemmy.ml
        33·
        2 years ago

        You’re gonna yo-yo for another 6 years but every swing will be lower than the last, until you finally hit your mid-30s and adopt an “ah fuckit” approach to life.

        • midnight_puker@sh.itjust.works
          11·
          2 years ago

          My yo-yo string just broke when my wife told me she wanted a divorce. The “ah fuckit” is already strong in me. And I’ll be 40 in 6 years.

          • tetris11@lemmy.ml
            4·
            2 years ago

            Ah. You got one of those fancy yoyo’s with disco lights and stuff. Mine just does walk the dog.

          • Samvega@lemmy.blahaj.zonedeleted by creatorEnglish
            1·
            2 years ago

            I suggest working on your emotional issues before committing to another relationship. They might be more complex than you imagine. You might think you are depressed, for example, when in reality this is a symptom of being neurodivergent. Accepting yourself for who you are, right now, is necessary, and that requires knowing yourself.

      • someacnt_@lemmy.world
        32·
        2 years ago

        At least you are not actually inferior to others. That’s for me, I am ultimately inferior for real.

  • li10@feddit.ukEnglish
    351·
    2 years ago

    Always going on about height 🙄

    Yes, there are some women who will outright say no due to height, but don’t act holier than thou like you don’t have any physical preferences that you would choose if given the option.

    It’s also not the dealbreaker they think it is most of the time, it’s just cope so they can blame something out of their control and say that it’s women’s fault for being shallow.

    • MutilationWave@lemmy.world
      7·
      2 years ago

      You’re right, but untalls really got the short end of the stick. The most desperate virgin I’ve ever spent time with was 5 foot nothing, fat, ugly as fuck with a fucking haircut that looks like his mom cut it for him.

      Those are a lot of hurdles to jump, but he insisted that he was the most masculine man. Full testosterone top to bottom. He was an absolute creep with women and annoying as fuck to everyone. He was so unaware that he was spouting his conservative bullshit in a park slope bar and he kept laughing at the guy who said he was going to beat his ass. I dragged him out of there.

      He rode a Ducati bike that he had to sit side saddle at red lights because his feet didn’t reach the ground. We worked together on a few jobs but we were in Brooklyn for three months. He’s the most pathetic person I’ve ever met and it fucked with me that he was so happy and upbeat while I was a miserable alcoholic at the time.

    • watersnipje@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      61·
      2 years ago

      Two of my exes were significantly shorter than me, and I think at least half of them were my height or shorter. I don’t give a fuck, height is such an unimportant and arbitrary characteristic. I don’t know many women who care about it.

      But I guess if you’re looking for shallow contact, you’ll find shallow people.